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Dear Abby
In 1962, liberal advice columnist Dear Abby said that husbands should not spank their wives. She said that spankings are for children. I agree with her. But can you imagine the reaction she would get now if she said that spankings are for children? It would be negative, to say the least.

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12-13-2017 12:45 PM
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There are few people that advocate spanking children. However it is still hugely popular throughout the world though I have found few parents want to admit to it or even talk about it. Of course spanking your wife would be domestic abuse and something I doubt occurs in today’s society.

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12-13-2017 01:26 PM
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Although that is a complicated thing too. There are some very strictly patriarchal people out there. And there are foreign places such as rural Vietnam too, although that is kind of out of the scope of Dear Abby.

There do seem to be a few continued advocates of spanking, but they are largely in the realm of Christian parenting materials from my impression. Indeed, this is not something Dear Abby would support today.

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12-13-2017 01:43 PM
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(12-13-2017 01:26 PM)Garth Wrote:  There are few people that advocate spanking children. However it is still hugely popular throughout the world though I have found few parents want to admit to it or even talk about it. Of course spanking your wife would be domestic abuse and something I doubt occurs in today’s society.

I never have condoned husbands spanking their wives. I believe that husbands and wives should be equal.

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12-13-2017 03:15 PM
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(12-13-2017 01:43 PM)Anymouse Wrote:  Although that is a complicated thing too. There are some very strictly patriarchal people out there. And there are foreign places such as rural Vietnam too, although that is kind of out of the scope of Dear Abby.

There do seem to be a few continued advocates of spanking, but they are largely in the realm of Christian parenting materials from my impression. Indeed, this is not something Dear Abby would support today.

Dear Abby made a lot more sense in 1962. The liberals of that era were a lot like the conservatives of today.

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12-13-2017 03:18 PM
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(12-13-2017 01:26 PM)Garth Wrote:  There are few people that advocate spanking children. However it is still hugely popular throughout the world though I have found few parents want to admit to it or even talk about it. Of course spanking your wife would be domestic abuse and something I doubt occurs in today’s society.
Garth, you may not be aware of it but there are quite a few married couples today, mostly Christian couples, who practice domestic discipline based on the Biblical principle of the husband being the HOH (head of the household).

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12-13-2017 06:25 PM
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Yes, I have been in touch with a few people who support that.

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12-13-2017 06:46 PM
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Personally I do not know anyone that does practice domestic discipline but I am sure it exits. As long as it is consensual I have no problem with it.

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12-13-2017 07:08 PM
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(12-13-2017 07:08 PM)Garth Wrote:  Personally I do not know anyone that does practice domestic discipline but I am sure it exits. As long as it is consensual I have no problem with it.

I agree that if it is consensual, then it is their business. Non-consensual marital spanking might be common in some parts of the Middle East, but I'm not sure.

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12-13-2017 08:23 PM
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I agree as well. Rural Vietnam too, from what I have heard. (We are a bit off topic from the forum in this discussion, of course, which I am partially responsible for...)

Speaking of advice, one area that I think could really be good would be the possibility of a low cost ebook on spanking (print could also be good), which I have discussed in the past; something well written and accessible to parents. Particularly, discussion of the discipline of teenagers is weaker in most books on this subject available today from what I have seen, and this should probably be addressed to fill that gap.

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12-14-2017 02:59 AM
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