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Training Jackson in Righteousness

I do not know how many times a certain verse has rung in my head. Knowing that all Scripture is God-breathed it’s fascinating to read this:

“He who spares the rod hates his son, but he who loves him is careful to discipline him.” Proverbs 13:24.

Wow. The Bible says that if you spare the rod you hate your own son. That is really strong language. It is hard to spank your children, but if you do not use the rod on your children, ultimately, you are not showing them that you love them. I tell Jackson that I love him too much not to spank him. When I spank him I try to make sure to never do it when I am upset or mad.

Additionally, using the rod is not really a choice for me. Jackson does not respond at all to “time outs” (which is an unbiblical method of discipline). If we put him in time out for lets say, 5 minutes - 5 minutes later he will go and do the exact some dangerous action he was doing. What would I tell the doctors and nurses at the Emergency Room…that I could not protect my child because it was too much trouble for me to use the rod on him (an action that God has called me to do in his Word)? If I spank him, he will not dare go back to it. For the rod I use a wooden spoon. He knows this spoon is the spanking spoon and he even tries his best to say “spanking spoon.” Here are some reasons why I think it is working for Jackson:

Consistency, Consistency, Consistency. I try not to start spanking him when I am frustrated. I say, “Jackson if you do that action again, you will get a spanking.” I give him a chance not to sin. I always warn him so he knows it is coming and it not out of the blue where he does not understand where it came from. He knows where the spanking spoon is located and nothing is unexpected. Guess what? Sometimes he chooses not to sin! However, most of the time he continues to do it, and I lean him over my lap and spank him with the rod three times. He usually tries to cover his hands over his bottom (my dad said that I used to do the same thing). Many times it is worth it for him to get spanked just to continue in that certain sin…I think it was “worth it” for me as well as a child. Recently, he is hardly even fussy when I spank him, and he does not continue the action.
If it is an action that could harm himself or others then he definitely gets a spanking.
If he throws a fit and falls on the floor, I say “if you continue this you will be spanked” and he gets a spanking and usually stops. He has to know that throwing a temper tantrum is not loving and does not bring God glory. Letting him just cry in his crib (for some sort of time out situation that God does not call for me to do in the Bible) and not spanking him is not loving for me as a parent. I will say I have given countless YMCA children time out and have seen it “work” in a public school-type setting, but I am Jackson’s parent and it is my responsibility to use the rod on him. Time-out is mere behavior modification and rarely changes the heart. Somehow the rod does.
Recently, he has been doing so much better since he is now able to communicate with us through signs. He does not get frustrated as much now…he hardly even throws a fit on the floor…and some days he does not even get a spanking (but most days he does)
I do not dare do it in public. My goal in using the rod is not humiliation but saving his soul from death. Charlie has had to go to the bathroom and spank him a few times while out to eat.
It is hard to be a parent. It takes work and I just cannot sit on the computer or on the phone and let him be defiant…although many days that seems like a very good idea.
It’s biblical. Whenever God commands us to do a certain thing, He does so because he knows that we are prone to do the opposite.



Proverbs 23:13-14 states, “Do not withhold discipline from a child; if you punish him with the rod, he will not die. Punish him with the rod and save his soul from death.”



We are called to discipline our children with the rod to save our children’s soul from death
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I feel like if he is getting a spanking most days then it isn't working.
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Well, I would not necessarily be concerned about a spanking every day then, he was quite small then. According to the date of birthday on her blog for Jackson and the date this blog post was written he was about 2 years and 2 months old. The embedded video was posted 1/15/17 when he was about 10 years and 4 months old, so I assume spanking is not a everyday thing for him now. I wonder if it is still used or a possibility in that house now at his age?
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A few thoughts on Garth's post. I think some may get hung up on "he or she gets too many spankings" which I don't think is the point. If you believe in the relentless theory, which we do, you spank when you need to spank and we have sure had the times in our home when one (or more) of our kids is being turned over our knee a lot. Another point that stands out is that a time out is really a non-Biblical punishment and does little if any good in our minds. We do believe the rod is in Proverbs for a reason, and Biblically, the rod of correction is what is commanded of us when we correct our children.
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Un-Biblical to give a time out, first time I heard that one
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