Poll: Why don't we post more achievements here?
My kids have no recent achievements
I don't feel safe giving out that info
I just tell people back home
High standards are my minimum expectation
I'm not one to boast about my kids
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charlesdad Offline
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Why is this board quiet?
Is it...

a. None of our kids have any recent achievements
b. We don't want risk giving out too much info
c. No need to come online to talk about achievements because we tell friends & family who live nearby
d. People here don't value the achievements because they have high expectations
e. We don't want to boast

For me it's going to be a bit of b c and e.

Last week my eldest (Cara) got a headteacher's award at school for being helpful, and she got her 400m swimming certificate.

Big things back at home, proud grandparents, but here...are people on this board really interested about a kid they've never met?

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04-29-2019 07:02 PM
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RE: Why is this board quiet?
A couple of us live in a country where 'biblical correction' is frowned-upon (to say the least).
This makes it difficult to post some things which might make us vulnerability to identification.

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04-29-2019 07:09 PM
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RE: Why is this board quiet?
I actually have signed some confidentiality agreements, stating to not post any student information; not sure how far that goes but I imagine that will limit posts from teachers on this forum.

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04-29-2019 10:32 PM
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MelissaJean Offline
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RE: Why is this board quiet?
Since I'm kinda the person who pointed all this out, let me try to say some things without being rude.

I don't think you need to give out personal details to mention something good. "Bobby got an A. Michelle got a medal in a track meet' isn't enough to start hunting you for.

But, here's the thing: you are sharing about the worst moments for us. The moments we messed up, and the moments we paid the price for messing up. Isn't it at least a little bit fair to let everyone know the opposite? Like, your kids can't possibly be in trouble all the time.

I'm not saying post every time she remembers to make her bed without being told, but there must be a middle ground.

Think about the kids who don't post here, but their parents do: Do they seem like real people. I don't mean the creepy fake people, I just mean... It's like a character in a movie that's written badly, and you just feel like it's wrong.

I get not wanting to give away stuff that IDs you, but stuff that let's is know your kids a little bit. And it even makes helping you easier. "He did that? That doesn't sound like him at all! Maybe something else if bothering him?"

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04-29-2019 10:34 PM
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RE: Why is this board quiet?
That's fair. I agree with you. If you check my posts, you'll see I haven't actually posted about any spankings I've given my kids yet. It'll happen but I'm not here to just talk about them messing up.

I figured it might be a good idea to put something on this board as that's literally what this board is for.

I posted a couple of good things that Cara did in my first post on this thread.

But I can't tell you about the best thing that any of my kids have done recently 'cos it was in the local newspaper about 3 weeks ago. Makes me a proud dad but I'm not a stupid dad, so I'm not going to tell you about it here.

See, I'm kinda stuck with the swimming certificate and the headteacher's award, you know?

Anyway it's nearly 4am here in the UK and I'm probably making no sense because I haven't slept properly so I'm going to try yet again to fall asleep.

(04-29-2019 10:34 PM)MelissaJean Wrote:  Since I'm kinda the person who pointed all this out, let me try to say some things without being rude.

I don't think you need to give out personal details to mention something good. "Bobby got an A. Michelle got a medal in a track meet' isn't enough to start hunting you for.

But, here's the thing: you are sharing about the worst moments for us. The moments we messed up, and the moments we paid the price for messing up. Isn't it at least a little bit fair to let everyone know the opposite? Like, your kids can't possibly be in trouble all the time.

I'm not saying post every time she remembers to make her bed without being told, but there must be a middle ground.

Think about the kids who don't post here, but their parents do: Do they seem like real people. I don't mean the creepy fake people, I just mean... It's like a character in a movie that's written badly, and you just feel like it's wrong.

I get not wanting to give away stuff that IDs you, but stuff that let's is know your kids a little bit. And it even makes helping you easier. "He did that? That doesn't sound like him at all! Maybe something else if bothering him?"

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04-29-2019 10:46 PM
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RE: Why is this board quiet?
Trust me it wasn't really aimed at you, you just have me the venue I guess?

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04-29-2019 11:28 PM
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RE: Why is this board quiet?
The question really should be 'Why is the Fireplace Mantlepiece so quiet' surely?

At home of course we celebrate the various achievements of our brood (and their mother finishing a marathon recently) but we don't shout about it from the rooftops. I am guessing others share our approach. Nothing wrong with celebrating what our kids have achieved but it is not compulsory!

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04-30-2019 04:44 AM
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RE: Why is this board quiet?
(04-29-2019 07:02 PM)charlesdad Wrote:  a. None of our kids have any recent achievements
b. We don't want risk giving out too much info
c. No need to come online to talk about achievements because we tell friends & family who live nearby
d. People here don't value the achievements because they have high expectations
e. We don't want to boast

For me it would be c and e. Honestly Megan does something almost everyday to make me proud of her, I just do not feel the need to share those things with many people (aside from grandparents who want to know everything their granddaughter does). I do think it's incredibly important that Megan knows when I'm proud of her and that her Dad and I celebrate her big accomplishments and the work she put in to achieve them, but I don't feel the need to brag about her and I don't want to teach Megan that she should go around boasting every time she accomplishes something.
04-30-2019 11:30 AM
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RE: Why is this board quiet?
I like that answer. A lot!

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04-30-2019 06:01 PM
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