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(10-25-2020 04:45 AM)Anymouse Wrote:  
(10-25-2020 12:29 AM)BadMom78 Wrote:  I've also heard hitting a child in the face referred to as "spanking", but perhaps the scariest thing is how it's so common for parents to talk about hitting their kids in the mouth as punishment for speaking disrespectfully.

The MOUTH!?!?!? That's probably one of the worst places on the body to hit.

Rather than ban spanking, I think there should be laws regulating the practice for safety, so that the idiots out there don't get the idea that literally punching your kid in the mouth is in any way an acceptable method of discipline.

Even there the issue is that many parents find slapping acceptable, even non abusive parents and parents who never spank. My mother occasionally slapped, but never spanked.

I got my face slapped many times. It's not something I would do to my own children if I had any, but I wouldn't say I was abused.
10-25-2020 05:38 AM
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I have popped mine in the mouth a handful of times and I think if you ask them, they will tell you that was better than taking a trip over my lap. I believe most parents who do this intend to shock rather than hurt. I don't consider the times I've popped them in the mouth to be stellar parenting moments but equally so I don't consider them abusive.

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10-25-2020 05:48 AM
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(10-25-2020 05:48 AM)Kim3 Wrote:  I have popped mine in the mouth a handful of times and I think if you ask them, they will tell you that was better than taking a trip over my lap. I believe most parents who do this intend to shock rather than hurt. I don't consider the times I've popped them in the mouth to be stellar parenting moments but equally so I don't consider them abusive.

Their dentist might disagree.
10-25-2020 06:42 AM
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RE: Spanking to be Illegal in Scotland
(10-25-2020 06:42 AM)BadMom78 Wrote:  
(10-25-2020 05:48 AM)Kim3 Wrote:  I have popped mine in the mouth a handful of times and I think if you ask them, they will tell you that was better than taking a trip over my lap. I believe most parents who do this intend to shock rather than hurt. I don't consider the times I've popped them in the mouth to be stellar parenting moments but equally so I don't consider them abusive.

Their dentist might disagree.

That is just crazy talk. Rolleyes She slaps us on our cheek she don't punch us in the mouth or something. I got real good teeth to.
10-25-2020 09:54 AM
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RE: Spanking to be Illegal in Scotland
(10-25-2020 05:48 AM)Kim3 Wrote:  I have popped mine in the mouth a handful of times and I think if you ask them, they will tell you that was better than taking a trip over my lap. I believe most parents who do this intend to shock rather than hurt. I don't consider the times I've popped them in the mouth to be stellar parenting moments but equally so I don't consider them abusive.

While I know how hard parenting can be and would never judge any parent for a momentary lapse in judgement, I've found a pop or two to the rear to have the same effect, and I wouldn't mind a law outlawing hitting in the face. It just isn't acceptable (though we've all made rash decisions we regret later)
10-25-2020 11:00 AM
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RE: Spanking to be Illegal in Scotland
As part of a broad education campaign that made it clear that a proper spanking or paddling was safe and acceptable, that might be OK, although I can see the discomfort with making a blanket rule.
10-25-2020 11:15 AM
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(10-25-2020 11:15 AM)Anymouse Wrote:  As part of a broad education campaign that made it clear that a proper spanking or paddling was safe and acceptable, that might help.

This. Even in places where spanking is legal (or common, as it is in Louisiana and Texas), the fact that the most public authorities ever say is that it is "legal", is a detriment. As long as spanking lives in the shadows, it allows the stigma to grow, but it also allows bad spanking practice to grow. And then when the public hears about the bad spanking practices, they judge all spankers equally, because spanking lives in the shadows
10-25-2020 11:17 AM
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RE: Spanking to be Illegal in Scotland
(10-25-2020 05:48 AM)Kim3 Wrote:  I have popped mine in the mouth a handful of times and I think if you ask them, they will tell you that was better than taking a trip over my lap. I believe most parents who do this intend to shock rather than hurt. I don't consider the times I've popped them in the mouth to be stellar parenting moments but equally so I don't consider them abusive.

My parents sometimes slap me in the face in very stressful situations. It can happen when we get in an argument and i get very disrespectful.
It hurts a bit but the shock is the aim i guess. It stops the argument immediately. It does bring tears to my eyes but it's better than a spanking. It's not abusive.
10-25-2020 11:20 AM
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I've never felt abused when my mother has slapped me in the face either.

I have been slapped in the face by my biofather and although it wasn't as bad as getting my butt busted if felt emotionally abusive if that makes any sense.

My mother does it to put an abrupt stop to something I'm saying....not that anyone could possibly understand why that would ever be necessary with me since I'm such a polite and charming individual. Rolleyes

My stepfather has never slapped me in the face.

At the end of the day I think people need to take care with what is deemed abuse...my biofather accused my stepdad of sexual abuse because he spanked me. There is an entire population of people who have deemed the spanking of children to be sexual abuse and the first step on the road to developing a fetish.
There is also the population that deems any physical punishment to be physical abuse...you know the group that will be quick to point out that the only people you can legally strike are children....guess on the totem pole of life that puts us below dogs.
Then there is the camp that has labeled spanking as emotional or even intellectual abuse....

Here's what I know.....

When an adult yells at me I feel far more abused than I have ever felt after having my mouth slapped or my butt whacked.
.......my mother and stepdad do not yell at me.

Being made to feel like I am less important or my thoughts, feelings opinions are less valid because of my age makes me feel more abused than having my mouth slapped or butt whacked.
.......my mother and stepfather have never made me feel like my age has made me less than in any area of life.

Being ignored because I have failed to live up to someone's expectations has made me feel far more abused than having my mouth slapped or my butt whacked.
......my mother and stepfather have never ignored me or made me feel unwanted.

Just the facts from someone who has been on the receiving end of all the above but not by my mother or my stepfather....abuse is a powerful word and should never be used lightly.

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10-25-2020 12:40 PM
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(10-25-2020 12:40 PM)Scarlette Wrote:  I've never felt abused when my mother has slapped me in the face either.

I have been slapped in the face by my biofather and although it wasn't as bad as getting my butt busted if felt emotionally abusive if that makes any sense.

My mother does it to put an abrupt stop to something I'm saying....not that anyone could possibly understand why that would ever be necessary with me since I'm such a polite and charming individual. Rolleyes

My stepfather has never slapped me in the face.

At the end of the day I think people need to take care with what is deemed abuse...my biofather accused my stepdad of sexual abuse because he spanked me. There is an entire population of people who have deemed the spanking of children to be sexual abuse and the first step on the road to developing a fetish.
There is also the population that deems any physical punishment to be physical abuse...you know the group that will be quick to point out that the only people you can legally strike are children....guess on the totem pole of life that puts us below dogs.
Then there is the camp that has labeled spanking as emotional or even intellectual abuse....

Here's what I know.....

When an adult yells at me I feel far more abused than I have ever felt after having my mouth slapped or my butt whacked.
.......my mother and stepdad do not yell at me.

Being made to feel like I am less important or my thoughts, feelings opinions are less valid because of my age makes me feel more abused than having my mouth slapped or butt whacked.
.......my mother and stepfather have never made me feel like my age has made me less than in any area of life.

Being ignored because I have failed to live up to someone's expectations has made me feel far more abused than having my mouth slapped or my butt whacked.
......my mother and stepfather have never ignored me or made me feel unwanted.

Just the facts from someone who has been on the receiving end of all the above but not by my mother or my stepfather....abuse is a powerful word and should never be used lightly.

I feel the same way about it Heart
10-25-2020 02:16 PM
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