Compassion

[Kittykat]

Absolutely right. And I know people who were abused horribly as children who broke that cycle as parents.

[Garth]

Right! Empathy is identifying with the way other people are feeling. It is “walking in their shoes” as someone once described it. Compassion is connecting with the same loving essence you find within yourself with others. I guess you could say compassion and unconditional love are the same thing. It is nonjudgemental and a realization we are as human beings all one. It doesn’t mean you always approve of other peoples behaviour. It does mean however you are always willing to forgive others and more importantly yourself.

[Rosie]

I never thought before of compassion being unconditional love but I like that so if you have unconditional love for somebody then you have compassion for him.

[Rosie]

Absolutely right. And I know people who were abused horribly as children who broke that cycle as parents.

You know what I think is sometimes the world can forget that just because bad stuff happened to somebody that that person isn't only the bad stuff that happened you know what I mean? Like say a kid got touched in the wrong way and even had to touch back in a bad way that don't mean that kid is always going to be nasty dirty right? Like I think sometimes when people find out that kind of stuff they like pull away or just go away since they don't understand that that person who is older could just be a good person who wouldn't never do to somebody what got done to her right? I don't know but people think in messed up ways sometimes.

[Kittykat]

Absolutely right. And I know people who were abused horribly as children who broke that cycle as parents.

You know what I think is sometimes the world can forget that just because bad stuff happened to somebody that that person isn't only the bad stuff that happened you know what I mean? Like say a kid got touched in the wrong way and even had to touch back in a bad way that don't mean that kid is always going to be nasty dirty right? Like I think sometimes when people find out that kind of stuff they like pull away or just go away since they don't understand that that person who is older could just be a good person who wouldn't never do to somebody what got done to her right? I don't know but people think in messed up ways sometimes.

I'm going to say this once, NO child or adult who has been sexually abused is nasty or dirty. They are the victims and NEVER to blame.

[Meggy]

Absolutely right. And I know people who were abused horribly as children who broke that cycle as parents.

You know what I think is sometimes the world can forget that just because bad stuff happened to somebody that that person isn't only the bad stuff that happened you know what I mean? Like say a kid got touched in the wrong way and even had to touch back in a bad way that don't mean that kid is always going to be nasty dirty right? Like I think sometimes when people find out that kind of stuff they like pull away or just go away since they don't understand that that person who is older could just be a good person who wouldn't never do to somebody what got done to her right? I don't know but people think in messed up ways sometimes.

I'm going to say this once, NO child or adult who has been sexually abused is nasty or dirty. They are the victims and NEVER to blame.

[Meggy]

Absolutely right. And I know people who were abused horribly as children who broke that cycle as parents.

You know what I think is sometimes the world can forget that just because bad stuff happened to somebody that that person isn't only the bad stuff that happened you know what I mean? Like say a kid got touched in the wrong way and even had to touch back in a bad way that don't mean that kid is always going to be nasty dirty right? Like I think sometimes when people find out that kind of stuff they like pull away or just go away since they don't understand that that person who is older could just be a good person who wouldn't never do to somebody what got done to her right? I don't know but people think in messed up ways sometimes.

Elizabeth Smart was scared to run away bec after that guy raped her she thought her religion taught her that she was gross and unwanted bec of it.

[Meggy]

Right! Empathy is identifying with the way other people are feeling. It is “walking in their shoes” as someone once described it. Compassion is connecting with the same loving essence you find within yourself with others. I guess you could say compassion and unconditional love are the same thing. It is nonjudgemental and a realization we are as human beings all one. It doesn’t mean you always approve of other peoples behaviour. It does mean however you are always willing to forgive others and more importantly yourself.

empathy is a lot harder to have than compassion

[Meggy]

When I was doing group therapy there was one girl who said she didn't like talking to her doctor since she felt he must of had a perfect life so he couldn't understand how it is for her but what the lady leading group said is you don't got to have a brain tumor to be a brain surgeon.
Do you think if somebody had a bad childhood then maybe they can't give there kid a good childhood since they don't know what it is like?
I think you can have compassion for people even if you don't have the same experiences but maybe you can't have empathy. Right?

even if uve been thro something similar it doesn't mean you'll understand what that person felt... I'd say if u care to really understand how someone might feel in that situation... and how u might feel in the same situation....that's what matters...and that's more than compassion... compassion I think is feeling sorry for someone... empathy is really understanding how they might feel and how u might feel about it and really going deeper with feelings...imo

[Rosie]

Absolutely right. And I know people who were abused horribly as children who broke that cycle as parents.

You know what I think is sometimes the world can forget that just because bad stuff happened to somebody that that person isn't only the bad stuff that happened you know what I mean? Like say a kid got touched in the wrong way and even had to touch back in a bad way that don't mean that kid is always going to be nasty dirty right? Like I think sometimes when people find out that kind of stuff they like pull away or just go away since they don't understand that that person who is older could just be a good person who wouldn't never do to somebody what got done to her right? I don't know but people think in messed up ways sometimes.

I'm going to say this once, NO child or adult who has been sexually abused is nasty or dirty. They are the victims and NEVER to blame.

I understand that only not all people do understand that and maybe sometimes even they think they know that but deep inside of them they don't and maybe that is how come people keep it a secret. I don't know but maybe it is kept a secret so the person don't get looked at like they will do the same kind of stuff. You know how if your parents beat you that they say you will more likely to beat your own kids? I think that is all I'm saying.