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Why Do Some Christians Not Spank?
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Though I can not be for sure my guess is at my Church few parents spank. Usually you can tell by the way the kids behave and the way the parents interact with their kids. This does not surprise me. It is a sign of the times. I do not think however kids are any worse behaved today than when I was growing up. For some Christian parents spanking is a very effective way of disciplining their kids. For others time outs are all that is needed. I have seen kids who were spanked frequently misbehave as much as kids who are never spanked. I don’t think the answer is in the Bible or for that matter any child rearing book. When I cared for children I followed my instincts. This seemed to work for the most part with all ages of children with a variety of personalities. One size does not fit all and as one spiritual teacher put it “Be attached to nothing. Be open minded to everything”. I guess you always have a choice. God will not judge you and what other parents think of your child rearing skills really doesn’t matter. Raise your children with loving kindness and whether you spank or not, you will not go wrong. God Bless!
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We go to church that has a yearly parenting class for those with kids in a certain age group. They discuss everything from discipline, to video gaming, to teens with cell phones. I believe it will be awhile before christians stop using spanking as it is similar to how God disciplines us.
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I mentored a boy once whose mom was a born again Christian. Because she was a singe parent she would sometimes ask a male Church member to discipline her son. She also requested that I spank him when he misbehaved when he was with me which was frequent. The boy accepted the spankings from both me and the Church. He grew up to be a caring and loving Christian adult and had a job through the Church helping less fortune children and adults.
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(01-17-2018, 05:31 PM)Garth Wrote: I mentored a boy once whose mom was a born again Christian. Because she was a singe parent she would sometimes ask a male Church member to discipline her son. She also requested that I spank him when he misbehaved when he was with me which was frequent. The boy accepted the spankings from both me and the Church. He grew up to be a caring and loving Christian adult and had a job through the Church helping less fortune children and adults.

I can certainly appreciate other males stepping in to be the one to help single mothers. They mom should be commended for having to be both parents to the child with the occasional help of others.
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It all comes down to the personality of the child. There is no textbook answer. What works for one child may not work for another child...even within the same family. The goal is to produce healthy, caring, loving, and productive adults.
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We have talked about this quite a bit in my youth group. The Bible says that parents need to discipline. It doesn't specifically say spank. The "rod" that parents need to not spare isn't a literal "rod"...it is a way of saying that discipline has to be handed out. The Bible doesn't always mention things clearly, but the meaning is there if you study.

As long as kids have discipline it doesn't have to be spanking.
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