Mercy

[Meggy]

I don't like getting spankings. I'm leaning against using them when I'm a mom. So I'm hardly the closet supporter of parents. But as someone who experienced 13 years of my life with no one caring what I did, one way or the other, and now 5 years with someone caring enough to punish when they feel it is necessary, I 110% support the idea it is done out of love. Lack of love was the 13 years where no one cared about me. I wish mom didn't spank, but I'm glad she's my mom even if she spanks me, because she at least cares enough about me to do something she hates doing. You won't know what I'm talking about because you've never had to go through your life feeling like NO one cared.

💗💗💗I get you Maddie. I feel u my mom doesn’t care at all at least j and c do and ur right Miss Kaitlin cares about u a lot I get what ur saying I can’t understand all of it but ya at least we have people who care to make us better

[Scarlette]

I don't like getting spankings. I'm leaning against using them when I'm a mom. So I'm hardly the closet supporter of parents. But as someone who experienced 13 years of my life with no one caring what I did, one way or the other, and now 5 years with someone caring enough to punish when they feel it is necessary, I 110% support the idea it is done out of love. Lack of love was the 13 years where no one cared about me. I wish mom didn't spank, but I'm glad she's my mom even if she spanks me, because she at least cares enough about me to do something she hates doing. You won't know what I'm talking about because you've never had to go through your life feeling like NO one cared.

No I can't understand what it is like to have no-one caring about me and I think it's terrible that you had that for 13 years. It's sad. I know I'm very blessed to have my mom and I know with my entire being that she would die for me....everyone should have that from at least one parent.

I'm having a difficult time getting my point across. I don't think my mom hates me because she spanks and I believe she loves me all the time but....for me...there is no loving feeling in being spanked.

Things my mom does that says love to me:
1. Cooking meals for me everyday....and that includes breakfast...I'm the only one of my friends who has a mom that is up cooking breakfast every morning...so 1950ish but it screams love to me.
2. She makes sure I have clothes...and even ones that make her roll her eyes but I like to wear.
3. When I need to talk....it doesn't matter what time it is...she drops everything to talk....and she doesn't complain about it.
4. When I'm sick....you won't find a better nurse/mom ever....if she wasn't a teacher she would have made a wonderful nurse.
5. All the nagging she does...you need to get more sleep...take an umbrella...put on your coat...get some slippers on your feet....and so on.

Those are the kinds of things that make me feel loved....spanking will never be on that list. Does that mean she doesn't love me? No. It means that it feels like anything but a loving action.

[Karo15]

I don't like getting spankings. I'm leaning against using them when I'm a mom. So I'm hardly the closet supporter of parents. But as someone who experienced 13 years of my life with no one caring what I did, one way or the other, and now 5 years with someone caring enough to punish when they feel it is necessary, I 110% support the idea it is done out of love. Lack of love was the 13 years where no one cared about me. I wish mom didn't spank, but I'm glad she's my mom even if she spanks me, because she at least cares enough about me to do something she hates doing. You won't know what I'm talking about because you've never had to go through your life feeling like NO one cared.

I'm so so so sorry you had to go through such a long time of no one caring. I'm tearing up a bit because i can really understand you.
I know how it feels when you feel like no one cares.
For me it were only 8 years. My birthgiver was neglectful and often drunk and my dad was by far not the man he is today.
I wish my mom wouldn't spank either but it's still a sign how much she cares besides all the other things she does for me.
I think because of my past i'm such a family person and supporting of my own spankings.
Being able to do whatever I want was no fun for me!

I send you a big virtual hug